Jared Wilson reflects on a comment of C.S. Lewis (in Mere Christianity), in which Lewis ponders the difference between hating something someone has done and actually hating that person:-
We could, comments Wilson, apply this to any of a number of situations:-
- Church conflict
- Relational jealousy
- Sharing of news stories that confirms our suspicions about people on the other end of the political or cultural spectrum
- The language that is used in clickbait links, soundbite videos, mocking memes, and exposé blog posts. We don’t say someone is “critiqued” or their ideas “debunked;” we say they were “destroyed,” “owned,” and so on. We use the language of humiliation or violence.
So I need to ask myself:-
- Is my hatred fed by confirmation bias?
- Do I resist correction the correction don’t fit the story I want to believe?
- Do I love to hate somebody?
- Do I hope for their failure and inwardly delight when it comes?
- Does my desire for justice bleed into desire for vengeance?
- Is any of this commensurate with loving my neighbour?