This entry is part 4 of 5 in the series: 50 Politically Incorrect Thoughts for Men
31. Boys need rough and tumble. They need to be trained, through sports and other activities, to ignore pain, and to sacrifice themselves to a worthy cause. Women shouldn’t be taught to fight because they’re smaller and weaker and because they are reproductively too valuable.
32. Don’t defend yourself. Unless you’re in physical danger. Be assertive, not defensive. If you’re wrong, say so and back down. If you’re right, say so and don’t back down.
33. Do apologise when you’re in the wrong. Don’t offer excuses. Be a man, take responsibility, and own up to your mistakes. If you say, “I messed this up. That is what I did and this is how I’m going to fix,” any decent person will think better, not worse, of you.
34. Make statements, don’t ask questions. When you have a choice, that is, and as a general rule. Humility is great, but not the sort of humility that turns you into a doormat or a wimp.
35. Educate yourself. Have interesting things to talk about. And know when to shut up.
36. Dress well. Look at one man and something about him will shout, “I’m somebody.” Look at another and the universe will mutter, “What a drip.” You can’t make yourself taller, and you ought not to put on airs, but you can be civilised. When we dress well, we show respect for ourselves and others.
37. Exercise. Resist (or at least delay) the worst ravages of ageing by watching your diet and keeping active. Buy a smart suit when you’re 30 and stay that size.
38. Manage your money. Women want a provider, both for themselves and their offspring. Stay out of debt. Invest in your retirement. Don’t live beyond your means.
39. Get a toolbox and learn to fix things. Women appreciate a man who can mend things. You should be able to change a tyre, top up the oil, hang curtain rods, fix a leaky tap, and so on.
40. Be sensitive and caring, but from a position of strength. Alpha-only males are jerks, and beta-only men are losers. Be the best of both – tough, bold and decisive, but also gentle, caring and considerate.
Eggs are Expensive, Sperm is Cheap, by Greg Krehbiel. Crowhill Publishing, 2014.